Call it a junk drawer of exes. Or if need be, a paper shredder. Lord knows how many Polaroids I have that are now confetti. There's no harm in learning how to put our grudges, or obsessive thoughts about past lovers to bed. Because if there's anything I know, it's that the symbolic activities we take have ties in reality.Read More
Honey, baby child. Let me tell you something I should have told myself a long time ago. People you respect, people who are wise, people who love you, will sometimes give you bad advice on your dating life. I hate that it's true. I really do. And the thing is, it's not really their fault.Read More
I'm about to say something big, and I want you to take it to heart. The way you've been thinking about relationships is headed for burnout. I don't know you well. Maybe I don't know you at all, but I do know this one problem is plaguing you too.Read More
Certain things in life have the power to name us. Things that we are attracted to are remembrances of who we really are, or once were. Do you believe this? Lines of poetry have the power to name us. Deep shades of red. Cafes we frequent. Street addresses. All of these are shaping us somehow into the person we are becoming.
I have received some bad advice on what my singleness means (solicited and otherwise) and I know you have too. Whether you are married or single, giving advice is an area of awkwardness for many people. While most of us should follow the old-fashioned rule of simply offering support or a listening ear in areas where there's not much advice to give, there's always that one person who feels it necessary to explain to you why you are still single, and it will sound like this...Read More
Isn't that what we all need as singles, permission to believe in the beautiful again?Instead of encouraging you not to think about your ex or to move on to your sparkling, fabulous future where you will indeed spend countless hours thinking about the person you don't want to be thinking about, let me give you something more practical instead: a list of quotes.Read More
Ridding ourselves of the collective guilt of taking care of our bodies is a need, not a luxury. Our nature as women is to deeply nurture, and when we turn that energy away from ourselves in neglect or disgust or fear we destroy the most precious thing about us. So when we take that long hot bubble bath, we aren't being frivolous, we are doing exactly what we do for the rest of the world in providing a safe space. We are reflecting some of that love back on ourselves, and rightfully so.Read More